Glennon Doyle is a job mannequin to so many ladies. She’s daring, assured & unapologetically herself.
The primary guide of hers that I learn was Love Warrior. She shares her battle with bulimia, alcoholism & discovering out about her husband’s infidelities. Subsequent up, I learn Untamed, the bestseller that you just’ve most likely heard all about. Then, to deliver it full circle ( & as a result of I simply wanted extra Glennon ) I learn Carry On, Warrior.
Through Instagram, I reached out to her & proposed that Michael & I fly to Naples, Florida to interview her for The Skinny Confidential HIM & HER podcast. We booked the journey & it was so value it to interview her in individual. That is considered one of my FAVORITE EPISODES, a lot in order that I listened to my very own podcast AGAIN. Positively to not hear the sound of my very own voice, however to take in much more Glennon.
There are such a lot of takeaways on this episode however I wished to share my prime 5 with you. After studying this put up you’ll need to go hear, & you’ll fucking find it irresistible. I promise.
Not solely is Glennon Doyle a greatest promoting creator, she is an activist & thought chief who has raised over $25 million for ladies, youngsters & households in disaster.
With that, let’s get to Glennon’s phrases of knowledge.
Prime 5 Takeaways From Interviewing Glennon Doyle:
♡ We’re conditioned for internalized misogyny.
The extra highly effective, completely satisfied & profitable a person turns into, the extra folks like & belief him. The extra highly effective, completely satisfied & profitable a girl turns into, the much less folks like her & belief her.
Glennon began noticing that individuals would inform her at talking occasions that they discovered it onerous to narrate to her when she stopped speaking about habit, bulimia & her hardships. When her focus went to Untamed, being in a contented marriage & being profitable, folks brazenly instructed her they couldn’t relate to her.
Society is conditioned to need a girl to be unsure, humble, & quiet. When a girls steps out of these traits, it makes us uncomfortable. After we see these traits in a person it additionally makes us uncomfortable as a result of we’re conditioned to suppose a person must be a ‘man.’
Glennon even talks about how she falls into this unconscious, knee-jerk response.
♡ Social media is an effective way to look at & change your ideas.
It’s a lot simpler to dismiss or spew hate on social media than it’s in actual life. Glennon says social media could be a useful gizmo for observing your ideas. I feel that is such an excellent tip to assist change our thought course of, particularly in terms of a girl you ‘simply don’t like, however don’t know why.’ As a result of proper?
Have you ever ever seen an excellent sizzling lady, or an excellent assured girl & earlier than you’ll be able to even give it some thought you discover your self simply not liking her however you don’t know why??? ‘There’s simply one thing about her.’ That is our internalized misogyny – the ‘knee-jerk’ response Glennon talks about. However one of the best factor about that is that we are able to change it.
So subsequent time you’re scrolling your feed & you suppose a thought just like the above, STOP, ask your self WHY??? Why does it irk or trouble me that this girl was tremendous into her nails/hair/physique/bikini/outfit so wished to take an image & share it?
♡ Our lives are in fixed response mode.
That is considered one of my favourite components since you may need heard me say earlier than that it’s so necessary ( for me ) to create space to create. If I spent my complete day answering emails & messages I’d be continuously engaged on different folks’s to-do lists.
Personally, I relate to this a lot. That is the primary time in historical past that individuals can get ahold of different folks continuously, on a regular basis. Glennon describes what this looks like so completely within the podcast. At any time of time, it doesn’t matter what you’re doing, somebody can principally textual content you, name you, electronic mail you, DM you & demand one thing of you. And identical to that somebody has issued you an IOU.
All of us should be considering extra about what WE need to do & create with our days. Typically you must disappoint different folks to not disappoint your self, which we get into far more within the episode.
The ability of listening is so necessary, particularly proper now in 2020. As a former college trainer, Glennon says she will be able to’t consider a extra necessary human attribute than listening.
Folks don’t need to be fastened, they don’t need recommendation, they don’t need folks to narrate to them, they only want a witness. It’s onerous to chunk our tongues & simply LISTEN.
Our alternative to really take heed to somebody comes EVERY SINGLE TIME somebody talks to us. Cease ready on your flip to speak, get comfy with pauses & silence, cease planning what you’re going to say when the opposite individual stops speaking. Enable it to occur.
♡ Social constructs change into cages.
These constructs will be so many issues: gender, faith, sexuality, politics, nationality, and many others. An instance of this might be slightly boy enjoying on the playground at college begins who begins crying, so the others begin attacking as a result of he’s breaking out of his ‘cage.’
Most individuals who establish with these social constructs sacrifice a whole lot of themselves for cover from the others of their group. It’s basically abandoning your self to not abandon your sense of belonging, whether or not that’s in your loved ones, faith, pal group- you get it.
♡ In case you think about extra for your self, then perhaps you have been made for extra.
We now have one life & it’s so brief. Glennon goes into what her relationship was like together with her husband after he cheated, however this recommendation doesn’t solely apply to relationships. It could possibly be your job, your community-whatever.
In case you have a need or want for extra from any facet of your life, it’s okay. It doesn’t imply you’re ungrateful ( which girls are particularly conditioned to really feel if that is so ). However you don’t get what you need or want with out SHARING it. You should communicate up & say what you need, in any other case how does your vital different or employer know?
Plenty of the time we’re so afraid of the response & that will probably be the ‘catalyst to the tip’ ( as Glennon places it ), that we don’t communicate as much as stay the life that we would like.
Make sure to observe @glennondoyle on Instagram. Her & her spouse Abby Wambach ( Olympic medalist ) actually are simply the cutest. Make sure to hear till the tip as a result of Glennon has some killer guide recs, one which I’m already studying & loving.
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